About

This is a Home For Death & Dying for Hampshire and its edges.

You may have found us because someone that you love is dying or has died,

or you want to understand your choices or support others,

or you're simply curious about death and want to bring it back into community life;

whatever the reason or route, we are glad you found your way here.

This website is a gathering place; a place to learn what is possible, to find practical help and to prepare,

gently and honestly, for the realities of dying and death.

Whilst we talk primarily about human death and dying,

we recognise that we're living in a time of societal and ecological collapse.

Much about what we share about grief and wise endings also applies to the more than human world.

This is a Home for Death & Dying

It is place where death is welcomed back into ordinary life.
Into kitchens, into communities, into conversation,
and into the hands of people who love each other.

A place where dying is not hurried away
and grief is not left to be carried alone.

Because it hasn’t always been like this.
For most of human history, death was not separate from ordinary day to day life.
It happened at home.
Among neighbours and kin.
With food on the table and people keeping watch.

And somewhere along the way, we forgot how to do this together.

The knowledge that once lived in families and communities
became less practiced.

The skills that were once common place became less available.
and people were left unsure
of what they were allowed to do.
or even what they were capable of doing.

What we believe

We believe death is not only a medical event,

it is a human, family, and community experience.

People have the right to understand their options,

to care for their dead, and to take part in the rituals that mark the end of a life.

Tending the dead is an act of love, and tending the living afterwards matters just as much.

Here you will find

Practical guidance for before, during & after death
Stories & Learning
Education & Community Events
Death Care Practitioners
Information & Advice

How this came to be

In 2026, Emily Chiswell and Emma Collins started asking each other a question;

how could we help shift our culture's understanding of death care back toward community?

We made this website because we believe

that care for each other at the end of our lives is the responsibility of everyone.

We believe that grief needs witnesses and that dying people need companionship.
We really hope that what we have shared here supports families when the ground shifts beneath them.

It has been a long time that as a culture

we have orientated towards the sovereignty of the individual and being independent as a sign of success,

but we believe that communities are stronger when they know how to care for each other

and that knowing how to need and be needed by one another are vital skills for these times.